Our Three Date Nights

So Rusty and I are almost to our fourth wedding anniversary. I cannot believe it. Really it seems surreal that this guy has put up with me and I with him (ha!) for four years of marriage and five years of dating. Who are those kids in that picture above? We were so naive, inexperienced with life, elated, working for the weekend and madly in love. And in so many ways we are still all those things but different too. Man do I love that guy.

I sometimes think we are a different breed. Don't get me wrong, I love R but we are just different. We like to do social outings with friends or dinner at our neighbors for our dates. We rarely get dolled up and venture out for a snazy dinner alone. My birthday and our anniversary are really it for our date nights. And some may criticize us for that but we are happy. In the year we dated before we got married we didn't really date much just us either. We love our t.v. shows (currently needing a new Netflix series to watch), dinner together at our table and the occasional ice cream run. We are just different and it works for us.

Romance to me is when I am extremely busy and Rusty does the laundry without me asking. Oh man, that makes me weak at the knees. Ha! Funny but true. Regardless, I want to date my husband especially before our little bundle arrives. And I do hope we can do more outside of the home with just us but in due time. Honestly, I think these planned date nights might be weird for us just because it is so different but trying we will.

Since I am having to rest 90% of the day all dates will happen in our home.

//Building a Tent + Watch a Movie//
I am not revealing this one to him at all. (Don't worry - he is not an avid blog reader). My plans: a sheet tent, Christmas lights, junk food snacks, ordering a pizza, the air mattress and our favorite blankets and pillows.

I am already bouncing up and down for this one. Eeep!

//Dinner In + The Newlywed Game//
Rusty and I l-o-v-e to cook together in the kitchen. It makes us feel very connected. My plans: new recipe that both of us can make together and playing the newlywed game. 

//Fill the Bucket + Photo Shoot//
One thing that I am noticing about Rusty and I is that when we vacation or really accomplish something or check off a big to-do we are like crazed people. We want to tackle something new. It got me thinking that as a couple we should make a bucket list together. Travel to Greece? Okay. Save a certain amount of money in 5 years? Let's do it. Whatever it is, I want us to make a bucket list together. Stuff that we can accomplish together. I also want to take photos of us being goofy. This is something we did when we first started dating on my Macbook and I think it would be fun to recreate. It is silly but reminiscent. Plus Rusty is really good looking so more photos of him the better.

I am hoping that these three dates create a few special moments before our boy arrives plus it makes time just for us. I like dating my husband even if we do it differently than most.

What is your favorite date night with your love? Happy Friday! :)

Q & A: My Worst First Dates Ever Plus Tips on How to Have An Awesome First Date

Oh first dates. You are crazy and nerve wracking and awkward and strange and fun all at the same time. Is that possible? I mean think about all the emotions that you feel on a first date. From finding the right outfit to are you riding together or just meeting, there are a lot of factors that go into a first date. While my dates are with my husband only (he has been a great date for almost 4 years now), I still like to practice good etiquette while out with him. It is nice to dress up, add a little lipstick and my favorite heels for a good meal or night of dancing out.

I figure before I get into my tips on dating I should add that I have had a handful of first dates. Some have been so much fun, some have been alright and others have been downright painful. I picked a date that I had in high school to share. While I was not seriously looking to get married in high school (thank goodness because the picking at my high school was...well...interesting), I did go on a handful of dates.

I had a friend set me up with a guy and we were doing a double date night. He was a little country boy who was very polite and had a nice smile. When we sat down to talk about our hopes and dreams (I totally scared off boys with my dreams talk but that is okay because the one who liked it is now my husband), he had a hard time communicating. He told me he wanted to play football. Great! I thought that was awesome and asked him how he wanted to purse that and he just responded again with he wanted to play football. I asked another question and his answer came back to football. Let's just say it was a very long night. I needed conversation and he needed to not stay up to late because he had football practice in the morning. It was nuts and boring and well he didn't get my number.

Or how about the time when I was home from college my senior year on Christmas break. I had dated a boy once in high school and throughout the years we kept in touch and had been good friends. I set him up with a friend or two and he and I got along great. We had been talking on the phone and had made plans to hang out. He was witty, charming and I loved his family. He asked me to go to the movies so I said yes. We watched a movie and then he took me for ice cream. Totally going great. He was all sly about kissing me in his truck but I let him. We started kissing a little heavier (Is this too much? Ha!) and then he climbed into my seat and pulled the lever to recline the seat in one motion. It all connected what was happening and obviously what he wanted and I started dying out loud laughing. I couldn't get it together. He asked me what was so funny in which I explained he had obviously reclined the seat like that before. I asked him to take me home and continued my fits of laughter. We didn't try a second date. Surprised? Me neither.

Dating can be interesting but I will say it is totally worth it. You learn so much about yourself. And yes you may have 100 bad dates but then you have that one that changes your life and it is like wow!

Also I want to add that I have not been on a date with a complete stranger in a long time. I know these tips will be useful but ladies who are currently dating, please feel free to chime in with your worst date, best date and your tips for good first dates. You are the inspiration! :)

{Do An Activity Beforehand}
I highly recommend this point especially if the guy wants your input on your first date. Do something together before you sit down to talk. For example, go play putt putt golf or stroll through the park with coffee. When you do an activity together it lightens up the mood and you are breaking the ice easier then going straight for the sit down dinner. Go to Goodwill and dress up in funny outfits. Do something that makes you both more comfortable then go grab drinks after. I feel like we have been doing first dates wrong for years. This way is so much better especially if it ends with dessert. I have cheesecake on the brain today.

{Be Yourself}
Here is the thing, you are absolutely awesome. 100% fantastic. And the even better news is that there is someone out there who needs you exactly how you are. Always be yourself lady. You don't want to go on a date and portray someone you are not. It isn't fair to you and it is misleading to your gentlemen friend. If you have a snort when you laugh, who cares. Snort away.

The point is to be yourself because that is the best thing about yourself. Your qualities are wonderful!

{It is Okay If It Doesn't Work Out}
There were times when I would go on a date and totally be bummed because I knew it wasn't going to work out. I once dated a guy in college who I met when we shared an umbrella at a rained out football game. He walked me home and I was smitten especially when he asked for my number. He was very, very good at the whole pursuing you beforehand thing. We were in college, he was very involved on campus, I was my sorority president, he was in all honors classes, I was working full time. We were busy people. For almost two weeks, we talked nonstop. Whether on the phone, Facebook, texting, we were communicating and flirting with one another. It took us almost three weeks to make plans to go sit down with one another. Once we finally did have our ice cream date, I just knew it wasn't going anywhere. I knew he wasn't the one and I wasn't interested in a relationship that wasn't going to be my future. I beat myself up because I spent three weeks developing feelings for someone when I could have been focused on other things. Don't do this to yourself. Enjoy your moments. Enjoy the happiness. Just know when it isn't meant to be, the best thing for both of you is to move on.

{This Isn't the Bachelor/Bachelorette}
Oh the Bachelor. This show can be so dangerous. Real life is not a helicopter ride to a heart shaped island that happens to have a winery where you run through the vines together then snorkel off the beach while dancing under the moonlight to a private Alicia Keys concert. Those are not realistic dates. I am not saying that their isn't some guy who might try this and more power to him but no matter how extravagant or simple a first date is this could be your future and you have to keep that in mind. A helicopter ride is nice but one day you will have bills together and he will eventually need you to take care of him when he is sick and you will get in arguments at times and let's be honest at this point in life he has probably already sold the helicopter. Keep your heart and mind within realistic boundaries. I am not saying don't dream or wish. Just be realistic.

{It is Just 1 Day/Night}
It is one day of your life. That can only be taken as exciting. It can be only one day until the date is over or one day of the rest of your life with someone who could be the one. See? Only exciting things! Remember this. It could be the start of your future.

What are some other helpful tips for first dates? Do you social media stalk him? Do you buy a new outfit? What calms your nerves? Share your tips and stories! Dating is meant to be fun. Go with it. Take it in strides and remember Mr. Yes Sir is out there. He is on the same journey to find you as you are for him so don't give pieces of your heart to other men. I know that sounds so cliche but it is true. He is out there. I know it.

Image via Sposto Photography

Meeting a Man...Oh the Pressure

{Julie Wilhite Photography via Style Me Pretty Texas}

This post is for all the beautiful, single gals out there. Whether you are in a relationship, newly dating or browsing, this post is for you.

The other day I was walking into the grocery store with Rusty when we passed a lady with her two sons and daughter. She was getting the little girl loaded into the buggy when I heard her say, "You will need to find a husband first." And just like that the start of a cycle begins.

At first, I laughed because the girl was maybe 6 and her mom was just joking. I knew that but I started browsing the produce section and really thinking about what she said. This really is how it begins, I thought. I can remember from an early age what it was like feeling pressured to find "the one." My grandmother is 100% a southern, sassy belle. She was married by the ole ripe age of 19. I remember dating a boy in high school who my grandmother just knew I was going to marry. She would tell us all the time. Update: We didn't get married.

I feel as women the world around us is constantly changing. Not as many women get married in their teens anymore. The latest census shows that the median age of women getting married is 25. My grandmother would have a stroke if she knew. Women are building independent lives before deciding to settle down. Women are more prominent in business and politics. Women are amazing.

With all this marriage chit chat, I just feel so many ladies feel pressured to settle down. In college I had a core group of 5 gals that I always hung around with. Within a year of graduating college or soon after we graduated college, they were all married. All of them minus me of course. I was in a new relationship with my now husband but we still had things we wanted to do before making things official. I know each of my girlfriends are in happy, healthy relationships and that was the next step. For many girls leaving college it is the "thing" to do.

Now back to the lady at the grocery store, I know she meant no harm to her daughter but the doubt in your self builds. When all of your friends are getting married, you start to question what you are doing. Your mom is asking who you are dating. Your grandmother is wanting to get you monogrammed towels but needs to know your unknown husbands last name. There is a lot of pressure. Guess what? Take your time. Be you. I know that is easier said than done. I know that when everyone is doing it you think you should too but wait for him. I 100% guarantee there is someone special for you. Yes, it may takes years but wouldn't you rather give your whole heart to the right man than be unhappy with the wrong one? If you want to travel before marriage, do it. If you want to get a job (which I recommend) before getting married, then do it. Now is the time that you get to spoil yourself. Treat yourself.

You will find him. I know you are going to roll your eyes at this next statement but he will show up when you least expect it. He may already be a friend and you just haven't seen him in "that way" yet. He may be a complete stranger that you bump in to at the bar (me and R). Regardless, he loves you and is going to be the best match for you. He will compliment you. He will balance out your personality. He will make you smile daily. He will make life that much richer.

So push all the pressure aside. Do not let your mom, sister, friend or crazy co-worker make you feel bad for being single or unhitched. Just smile at them and nod. They were single once too. Let them know that you still get lots of you time. Let them see how successful you are. Do not let their words or the pressure of womanhood bring you down. If you do, it is okay. There will be days when you do wish you were married. Just know that is your heart preparing for your amazing future. You deserve bliss and one day it will happen. Until then celebrate who you are and the surreal life you are living. Celebrate your accomplishments. Celebrate your happy heart.

The good news is once you are married, the pressure is off. Well, it is off for about two weeks before the baby questions begin. Ah, life.

Real Love v. Book Love - Yeah, There is a Difference

{Braedon Photography via Green Wedding Shoes}

Tis true. Regardless of the mixed reviews, I have started reading 50 Shades of Grey. Now before you close this out tired from all the talk I wanted to share a few thoughts about the book and relationships. Gasp, another relationship talk. Buckle up folks and I won't give much away for those who haven't read the book yet.

I purchased the first book on my snazzy Kindle and read it in 3 days and now the second one in two. If I could have my head in a book, all day every day, I would. It really does make me happy. I read these books and they make you happy. They make you turned on. They make you a hopeless mess. They make you cry. Now while it did take a while for me to get into the book (for literary folks...it is bit rough/choppy), I love how well developed the characters become.

Surprised I am talking about such a steamy book on the blog? Well while I do find the book seductive (sorry mother) I also find it somewhat funny. Funny you say? I do find it funny because it is not all that realistic. Now hear me out. For years I have been reading romance novels. I have read stories of strong women who just happen upon the most incredible men. They fall in love. They over think love. They almost give up. They get back together with an exciting scene most involving something dangerous. They realize they can never be apart. They profess their love and live happily ever after.

I am the first to admit that when I started reading romance novels 24/7 I felt like I was given the wrong representation of real life love. Yes, I believe in the fairy tale but I also believe in what really happens in life. My relationship with Rusty has definitely been amazing. I love my husband and his heart but that doesn't mean that there were hard times to get where we are today. I also know realistically there will be more hard times ahead.

I want every woman to feel warm and fuzzy when it comes to her lover but I also want woman to be truthful. Every relationship is different. Make sure you know real life from book love. Book love is meant to be all roses while real love may have a few hiccups. While I want us woman to be smart, I do think the book has a great portrayal of not bringing past relationships into the mix (i.e. Mrs. Robinson). It isn't helpful. I also think the book is accurate when it comes to mixing lives. It takes a bit of an adjustment bringing two lives together.

While I like how intimate the book is some of it is just not real life. Yes, we have moments where behind closed doors is hot (most of the time). Yes, sometimes life is dramatic. Yes, sometimes we argue with our other half. Just remember that your relationship is your own. Don't compare it. Don't start it with guidelines in mind. Keep it fresh and if you want to be intimate on top of a desk....do it. Just make sure it is sturdy. Ha! Keep yourselves happy y'all.

I am the gal who observes things. Just hear me out...

1. They never brush their teeth. Well technically she borrows his toothbrush but lets be honest morning breath is not a turn on. I am more than happy to overlook it but it happens.

2. Do they ever pee? Just curious.

3. Time moves so much slower. They always have time to do stuff and the day just ticks by. I am lucky to have enough time in the day to shower, check my email, work and get 4 things checked off my to-do list.

4. Christian Grey is really wealthy. Just an observation. Really wealthy y'all but in the book he doesn't seem like he works that much. I mean he does work on Saturdays but I am a small business owner who works on Saturdays and I still don't make $100,000/hour. Some wedding video that would be.

5. They have sex up to 4 or 5 times a day. Who has time for that much sex? Who has enough energy for that much sex? How do they get anything done?

6. They always cook the best food. Stir fry. Salmon cakes. Chocolate cake. Lots of wine (which technically they didn't cook). I want to live in a love stories book kitchen.

7. The bicker...a lot. At times I find it exasperating and I flip forward a few pages just to escape it. I would tell any girlfriend or guy friend to take a chill pill if they argued that much with there significant other.

8. This is about to get personal but sometimes the sex and its location just make me chuckle. I am the first to admit that I find it exhilarating to be intimate with my husband but I also know that the time and location are real.

9. Does she ever style her hair? It just comes together perfectly every day. That just isn't fair. If only you could see my hair now?

I think that if you want romance all the time you have to give it all the time. Each person is different in relationships. Make sure you are with someone who makes you happy, romance book or not. Love is sweet and sensual but we also have to go to the grocery store and fill up our cars with gas.

See mom. I didn't talk to much about s-e-x. Yeah, I planned on talking about my September goals but who knew this book would make it into a post. What are your thoughts on the book? How is book love and real life love different to you? Now who will star as the all together steamy Christian Grey for the movie?

Q & A: Finding Happiness in Yourself & Relationships

It is a funny thing. I do love to blog about weddings and flowers and pretty but I get the biggest response about relationship posts. I know because it surprises me too. I am absolutely no expert on love but I have lived a little. I have also dated. I also have found an amazing man to spend my life with.

So the biggest thing that I have to catch up on for Thursday Q & A is relationship topics. I will try my best but can I repeat again that I am no expert. Sound advice time.

Q. I have been with the same man for quite sometime. Sometimes I am happy and sometimes I am not. I seem to be in a funk. How do I know if I am sticking around for the right reasons? What do I do?

A. First, I hope I don't talk your ear off. I can confidentially say that each and every relationship is different. I feel your decision on what to do in your relationship is specific to you and may not be the same for another couple. You should also understand that your relationship is 100% different than everyone else so do not compare. Smiling pictures of a couple on Facebook doesn't equal a happy couple. Trust me.

Now that you are not comparing yourself to someone else you have to understand the next thing I am about to say. I have said it on this blog. I have preached it to my friends. I have learned it myself. I have a t-shirt that says it. Well maybe not that last thing but understand this: You cannot be the best you or offer all of yourself to another person until you are confident and happy with who you are and know what you stand for. I will say this until I am blue in the face. If you are not a confident woman, if you do not know who you are, if you do not have a sense of what your beliefs are then you will not be able to be 100% in a romantic relationship and that relationship will not satisfy you either. Yes, your sense of self will adapt over the years. Yes, your taste in style will change but you are who you are. You should be open to growth but regardless of all these factors, you should be happy.

If you are dating: Are you not seeing eye to eye with your other half? Are you enjoying your time with him or her? Are you smiling and feeling happy? Sometimes you think you are but I ask you to look a little deeper. If you are happy 100% I am so happy for you. If you are struggling, this relationship may not be for you. Here is the kicker: only you know the answer to whether your relationship is the right relationship. Be true to yourself. I was the gal whose best friends all got marries or engaged after college. I could have done that with the guy I was dating but thank goodness I didn't! I would have missed out on Rusty. You decide your fate and that should include a really good and dreamy guy.

{Benj Haisch via Green Wedding Shoes}

If you are married: This one is hard. I couldn't imagine marrying someone who didn't make me laugh 24/7 but I also know people change. Remember that things will change in your relationship but it should be for the better. Your taste for life may change but with that, your partner should be right there with you. If you aren't happy, try talking with a mutual party like a mentor or counselor. I believe that if both parties try your marriage can be a happy one. We are women and we are emotional. When you have a spat with your husband try to remember that it isn't the end of the world. Sometimes our emotions get the best of us and we think things are worse than they are. If things are truly bad then you need to try every possible resource to improving your partnership. You both should be happy and healthy!

SO what if the problem is not your relationship but your happiness? I understand. I know first hand what it is like to struggle with what you want to do in life. A few ideas for finding happiness: write down what you enjoy and go from there. If your list involves taking pictures maybe photography could be a new hobby. Try volunteering. I can guarantee that will bring you joy. A mother of three? Start a mommy and baby coffee house date or a book club. Find your outlet. I think sometimes we know what would make us happy but it may scare you a bit. It may seem bigger than you. That is good! Fight fear. Remember that you deserve happiness but you also have to be patient and strong when it comes to finding your niche.

I hope that this post makes sense. I truly believe that every woman can be smiling and that is what makes you beautiful ladies. Happy Thursday!

Q & A: How Can I Get Him to Help More?

Elizabeth Messina via 100 Layer Cake

So Thursday is already here. Sorry I was not around yesterday. I have been a tad under the weather lately. Apparently no rest and over doing things results in feeling yucky. Who would have thought that?

Typically I post a Q & A session on Friday mornings. Lately I have received so many kind comments on Q & A posts. Sometimes it is weird to know people are reading this blog. Yes, that is the whole point but when people let me know they are it kind of throws me. Thursday will now have a Q & A session so that Friday can be light and fluffy with Love Song Friday. The post may cover relationships, money, clothing, happiness, weddings or whatever your heart desires. Surprisingly the favorite question sessions have been focused more on relationships than wedding questions. Planning brides do not fret. I still plan to tackle those tough questions about lighting, cakes and bouquets.

For every woman you are in some kind of relationship. Regardless of where you are in life, whether planning your big day or 10 years married, we all go through similar situations. Now I am no relationship expert but I do know a thing or to about dating, love and life. I figure if I can help then why not?

Today's question is for any woman, wife, girlfriend or bride. Let's see, that covers every type of womanly species.

Q. How can I get my significant other to help more around the house?

A. Ladies and possibly 1 % of gentlemen, we have all dealt with this. Your husband comes home from work and wants dinner done. Don't forget the clean clothes and freshly dusted house. Sometimes I think our spouses or significant other doesn't mean to be an added stress but it can come across that way. Now this post is not a rant but before we continue any further if you are in a relationship now where the man does not help you around your house these are the best options for you. If you are married with this problem completely disregard these next two points and skip to the bottom.

1. Ask him for help. Kindly talk with him about pitching around the house a bit more. Be positive and uplifting. A loving man will agree to help. Do not nag. Stress how pitching in around the house will result in more time for you two to spend together or more time for him playing video games. Yes, the last thing may make you roll your eyes but regardless kindly ask for help.

2. If he continues to not help or is unresponsive, evaluate your relationship. Ladies, this is the man you are going to be with forever. This period you have dated is just a glimpse into your future. If no changes are made and no help is given, then know there is someone better. Plain and simple. Yes, that is harsh but you deserve a man who is going to give you their best. If talking to him a few times (kindly and encouraging) doesn't work and he shows no improvement you really should consider your future. Chances are there are serious issues in other areas of your relationship as well.

But Katie you can't be serious? Why yes I can. There is a man who can help you. I am not saying that he should do the laundry and mop the floors but he can help you dry the dishes and take out the trash. Times have changed. In the past woman did everything...and I mean everything. When we first moved here I did everything as well but I also didn't have a job. A man who is willing to help around the house is a form of respect. Every relationship needs equal respect to be healthy.

Now for the women who are married with a husband who is lagging behind, try these simple methods:

1. Again talk to him. There is a difference between communicating and nagging. If you need help with that I can give you assistance. Politely ask him. Shouting or pushing him continually will result in him never wanting to help. It helps to associate completed house work with how it will benefit him and you. Let him know how much you need him and his manly help.

2. Post-its. Write one word down and put it right where he can see it. Write DVD and put it near the TV so that he knows to pick up the DVD's that may be lying around. Don't take this as a free pass to write paint, cut, sweep, mop, dust, wash, mow and other tasks all over the place. Just to throw him off the post-it trail throw in a fun message every once in a while. A perfect example of a fun post-it in one word: lingerie. Promise he will like that.

3. Assign chores. Don't be afraid to write down what needs to be done every week and agree upon chores that each spouse will complete. It may seem like a small child getting their chore list but if you both know when things need to be done and who is doing what it makes for a smoother week and happier home.

4. Treat yourself. When it comes to yard work Rusty and I break up responsibility. He typically mows and I pull weeds. Regardless we work hard to get the job done...together. Afterwards we always treat ourselves. It may be a movie or a DQ blizzard but reward conquering your large tasks that just need to get done.

Regardless of how helpful he may be right now, ladies you must remember that men sometimes forget. Helping around the house is not natural for a majority of them. It takes time too. Always encourage him. Let him know how grateful you are for him. They put up with us!

Hope you find this post uplifting and not a drag. I want to encourage you and offer healthy solutions versus solutions that just don't work. If you have other suggestions, comment below! As for more questions, keep those coming too! I love answering your questions! Happy Thursday! :)

P.S. The picture posted at the top is just a peek at an insanely spicy and fabulous engagement session on 100 Layer Cake. Check out the rest for a little pick me up! Just click here friends!

Making Your Marriage A Priority

Thursday it is! Happy day friends. I am glad that you stopped over. Hopefully you are on your lunch break, coffee break, run to Sonic break, grabbing a kit kat break or ignoring your pile of work break. You get the point. Really any type of break will due right now. We all need those breaks in our busy schedules. I know something that will help relax you. See below.

Ryan Ray Photography via Wedding Chicks

Doesn't that picture make you want to pack your bags and go on a little getaway. Rusty and I did that this past weekend. It was long overdue and just what we both needed. It was time for us to get back to us and take the time to smile about those little moments. Here I am again talking about life after your wedding. I hope that you do enjoy reading these types of posts. I recently read an article that has been making the rounds about 15 things for your marriage. It made me laugh because I start posts with specific topics to then have a better article written by someone else come along. That is okay. I will still write.

I may be still technically new to marriage (1.5 years) but I have learned a lot. Rusty has taught me a lot and shown me what patience really is. I have a good husband. I could probably write a book on priorities in your marriage let alone making sure your marriage is the biggest priority but I will keep it to just a few things. These things are things that I have rediscovered, learned or reaffirmed. Regardless of these points you must take care of yourself and your happiness before you can make someone else happy. Shall we begin?

1. Set a date. This is probably the hardest thing that Rusty and I struggle with. Whether it is your vacation or just a two day trip, picking a date to go is hard for us. I have a problem saying no to others. We also let other peoples plans affect our schedule. Take the time to sit down and pick a week or a day to spend it together. Date night is important. Vacation's together are important. Invest time together.

2. Intimacy matters. I normally don't ever mention sex on the blog but today I am. First for everything, right? Being intimate with your spouse is beyond important. I know for women sometimes it isn't always about rolling in the sheets so make the most of the lingering glances, hand holding and sweet forehead kisses. My husband is the best at forehead kisses.

3. Do it Yourself. I have to be honest. I am a perfectionist. I am slowly learning to not knit pick. I do have a certain way I like to fold clothes but if Rusty does it himself versus me doing it than I need to be grateful. If it is something that will drive me nuts I do it myself. I am learning that somethings my husband will just never enjoy doing. I can do those things and trade off a few things that he would like better. Remember the things he does without you asking. He provides. He gets the oil changed. He mows the yard. He lets me shop. He is a good man.

4. Affirmation. Watch what you say and think about it before you say it. Positive words can move mountains in your life.

Gals, just like anything else in life if you don't make something a priority it gets left behind. It you don't make fitness a reoccurring thing your body shows it. Marriage is the same way. If you don't water your love fern (thank you How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days) then it won't grow into something lush and beautiful. Well, if ferns are your thing and all. Go with your favorite flower if they aren't. Always remember what a blessing it is to be married and spending your life with your best friend. That is all the rainbows and glitter that I have for today.

Keeping that Spark

Good morning sweets! We are rolling right into Tuesday. Rusty and I recently celebrated our three year anniversary of meeting. We are also a few short days away from our two year engagement anniversary. We are big fans of October (wedding month and Jane's birthday) and April (we met plus engagement time). I know I have said it before but Rusty really is my other half. He knows my needs and fulfills them. I am starting to work 5 days a week at River City which means more balancing of home, office work, blogging, planning Rachel's wedding and editing for Lovebird Productions. We talked about more hours and Rusty is just so encouraging. After our talk I went to fold laundry and without me asking he came to help. You may be wondering how is that groundbreaking? I don't know about your house but up until today I worked three half days a week and was home two full days. There is no reason for him to help with laundry because I always had time to do it. Today he realized how full my plate is and knew he needed to help out. That is why my husband is amazing. I am not saying things are always peachy but I cannot complain one bit.

With all this laundry talk I thought I would talk about a topic that I think so many couples are just not willing to do anymore. Guys, I have said it before but marriage can be hard. Not every day is glitter and rainbows but the occasional hard times can never outweigh the good. My mom told me that some mornings you have to wake up and decide to make your marriage work while other days it is pure bliss. I thought we could talk about a few things to help keep that spark lit. List time...

1. Tell him your favorite qualities about him. I love reaffirming Rusty. He is a confident man and extremely good looking. Well, to me he is very handsome! Even though he is confident it is nice to express the qualities I love about him. He is hard working, honest, brave, funny and one of a kind. I know how much I like to hear how much he loves me so getting to tell him the same thing is a blessing.

2. Don't let date night be an option. Whether it is once a week or once a month, make time to be with each other. Take moments out of your hectic life to disconnect from your phone, stop answering emails and pay attention to one another. Have dinner around the dinner table. Go to the movies. Go parking. ha! Just kidding about that last one...kind of.

3. Laugh together. I cannot explain how important this point is to your marriage. We do argue. Every couple will. We do not always agree but we do love to laugh together. Not only is my husband hysterical but the jokes he makes become our inside jokes. Have I mentioned how much I love inside jokes with him? Am I bragging about him too much yet? Sorry I get carried away. I am lucky. Life can be hard and tough but laughter really is the best medicine.

4. Surprise each other. I am not a big fan of surprises but I love to surprise Rusty. Maybe I don't like surprises because I always figure them out. I love giving Rusty a fun gift he has been talking about or making his favorite dish out of the blue. Surprises are fun and keep you guessing!

5. Respect one another. No explanation needed. You have to respect the one you are with. Give him a reason to respect you and he will. You must also show that same respect. You each bring something different to the relationship so learn to love that about one another.

6. Slow dance. Rusty and I did this last night. It may feel funny at first but then it turns into something really sweet. I love slow dancing to our first dance from our wedding. It brings back happy memories and happy tears. Yeah, I tend to cry when reminiscing living life.

7. Don't forget the little things. Plain and simple. Take the time to do little gestures of love. Take 5 minutes to write a kind sticky note to leave on the mirror. One of my favorite things to do is stop at the bakery and buy two cupcakes. It may sound silly but we love cupcakes. We get to have a little dessert after dinner. A little gesture makes you smile and goes a long way.

8. Do what it takes. You made vows. People these days are just giving up. You are deserve a happy marriage but you also have to give to get.

I know these are things you might already do but at least take the time to love your other half tonight. Send them a text saying, "You are the best!" or buy them frozen yogurt (clears throat...Rusty). Marriage can be hard but no matter how hard it is at times, the benefits and love from your happy, healthy marriage are beyond worth it. Celebrate your sweetheart!

Movie Review: Bridesmaids

Happy Monday Lovebirds! This past Saturday my sweet girlfriend Rachel and I loaded up and went to see Bridesmaids. We thought we would get better choice of seats and cheaper tickets by viewing the matinee but every women in Jonesboro had our idea too! You know that I am not a professional when it comes to movie reviews (obvious by my previous review here) but I figure why not let others know if it is worth seeing or not.

I loved the cast! They were talented and fun! The only thing that I do not like is the foul language. They like to curse! This picture gives you a sneak peek at how much action + laugh out loud comedy you will experience.

Photo Source: Here

Is it a date movie? No! I hate to say it but my loving husband would have rolled his eyes at me when the lights came up after the movie was finished. This is a definite girlfriend movie. Besides, we all need a night out with the girls every once in a while!

How many stars? 4.0 stars out of 5! You are going to laugh, cry, smile, make mental notes of movie quotes, dance in your seat, lean over and giggle with your girlfriend and by the end of it, feel warm and fuzzy. This movie has an awesome plot and accurately depicts what goes on to get a wedding together i.e. craziness.

For more on the movie, click here. Praying you all have a fabulous Monday!

Movie Review: Something Borrowed

I want to apologize for my absence lately. With blogger down on Friday and the beginning of the DeClerk wedding weekend, I was a busy bee but I wouldn't have it any other way! It was so much fun and I can't wait to share all the details with you! The beautiful couple is now honeymooning in Costa Rica!

Now on to my review of Something Borrowed. I loved the cast. It was star studded and even had a few new faces.

I don't want to give too much away if you haven't already seen it or read the book but I was not a huge fan of the moral delima in the plot. It pushes you on your beliefs with dating and relationships. I did love the comedy and how developed the characters were. At the end of the movie, I did have that "Boy this was fun" feeling but still felt this little ping for some of the things that happened along the way.

Is it a date movie? Yes! Rusty and I loved going together and then discussing afterwards. We loved the laughter throughout the movie.

How many stars? 3.5 stars out of 5! Also know that I will not ever give 5 stars unless I am completely wowed!

Here is a synopsis:

As she waits to enter her 30th birthday party, Rachel White (Ginnifer goodwin) can’t escape the feeling that her life has not turned out like she thought it would. Sure, she has a good job at a prestigious Manhattan law firm, but she works long hours and her boss is a tyrant.

She has her childhood best friend, the beautiful and vivacious Darcy (Kate Hudson), but seeing her flirt with her handsome fiancé is just another reminder that at the end of the party―like every other night―she’ll be going home alone. Except this time…she doesn’t. Rachel wakes up the following morning next to Dex (Colin Egglesfield), her law school study partner…and Darcy’s fiancé. Both of them are horrified―how could they let this happen?
Rachel tries to move on with the support of school friend ETHAN (John Krasinski), but as the wedding approaches she begins to realize that it wasn’t a mistake after all, and maybe Darcy isn’t the friend she thought she was.

Now Rachel has to make a painful choice: her best friend or the love of her life?

Dun Dun Dun...I know, dramatic. If you have seen the movie, let me know what you think by commenting below!

Happy Monday Lovebirds!

All You Need is a Twenty

No matter what stage your relationship is in we all need to have dates.  A time to just spend time with your honey with no distractions and packed full with a ton of fun!

I decided to plan a day with ideas that you can do with a $20.  Remember the time that a $20 filled up your tank or you could use it to hang out with friends, eat dinner, go to a movie, buy a new shirt and help save the world with a simple twenty?  Yeah, those thoughts are far and few between but who says you can't have a great date for around $20?  Let's do it!

1.  Check out the matinee.  I love going to the movies.  The joy of a matinee is you get to see your movie for a better price and you avoid the crowds.  I always throw in a soda or bag of candy from the convenient store or whatever I have at home.

2.  Eating lunch on any dollar menu.  Yes, this is not healthy but every once in a while eating cheap and poorly is okay.  Grab your lunch and head to the park.  Lay down and enjoy the sunshine.  While you are laying in the sun, talk about your favorite memories as a couple, laugh together and love on one another.

3.  Check out local venues.  A lot of cities have museums with little to no cost on admission.  You can always look for local art shows or live shows with your favorite band.  Dance the night away!

4.  Volunteer.  Volunteering is free and just think of the reward it offers.  Places like soup kitchens, Habitat for Humanity, Boys and Girls Club and City Youth are always searching for help with their latest projects and it is always refreshing to be around such positive people.

5.  Go Antiquing.  Yes, the guys may roll their eyes at this idea but antiquing can be fun for everyone.  Whether you go in the store and dig around or just window shop, looking at things from the past is exciting.  So much history! 

No matter what your day holds make time for one another!  The possibilities are endless with just a twenty dollar bill! 

P.s.  Have any other suggestions?  Email me at lovebirdproduction@gmail.com

Love Letter to my Husband

Tomorrow marks my two year anniversary of meeting my sweet husband.  For those of you who don't know, we were complete strangers.  He sat down next to me; we started talking; we got our own table to talk some more; he got a text from a friend asking if he was in love; we laughed; he drank beer with a cigarette butt in it (another post on that later); he told me he wasn't into sorority girls; I told him I was the former president of my sorority; he asked for my number and I gave it to him.  The following week we had our first date and have been together every day since.

I thought it was only fitting to write him a love letter to celebrate two amazing years!

Rusty,

Since the moment I met you, I immediately realized you were special.  You are one of the most positive people that I know.  I can remember the butterflies you gave me the first time you hugged me.  I am very lucky to still get those butterflies.  You won me over so fast. 

I know that I tell you this all the time but you are my prince charming.  You are my soulmate.  I can not believe that I ever lived my life without you.  In two short years, you have made me a better person, challenged me daily and shown me a love I have never known.  You are one of the best gifts that God has given me.  I count my blessings every day.

I love waking up next to you.  I love when you kiss me.  I love that you are a good dad to Jane dog.  I love that you make me laugh.  I love that you know my thoughts.  I love the way you comfort me when I get sad.  I love that I get to be your wife for the rest of my life.  I love that you have blessed me with your family.  I love that you make me grilled cheese at 11 at night because I mention I am hungry.  I love that you jump on the trampoline with me.  I love that you taught me how to properly fold a shirt from your stint with working at Old Navy.  I love that you encourage me.  I love that you believe in my business and dreams.  I love that your love for me in never waviering.

Rusty, you are such a blessing.  I mean that.  I promise to love you every day of my life.  I promise to stand by your side.  I promise to love you with every part of me.  You have my heart forever.

Thank you for taking a chance with me that Tuesday.  Who would have thought a great night of conversation and laughs would lead to two people falling in love.  Thank you for asking me to be your wife.

I can't wait for the years to come and all the memories along the way.

Happy two year anniversary my love!

I love you,
Katie