Happy Friday lovebirds! You made it to the final work day. I have had a fun week here on LBP. I got a lot accomplished and with that my list grew even longer. That is how it goes though...
Today's Q & A is something that I have been asked or given advice on before. This session is honesty at its finest.
Q: I love my significant other. We are recently engaged but we do have some issues. I will not go into full detail but there are things he does that I do not like. I want a future with him but things are very hard at times. What do I do?
A. If you want a sugar coated answer look elsewhere. I am going to be 1000% honest with you. Marriage is hard. Marriage is not what you see in movies. Marriage takes work...everyday. I love my husband and more than not we are laughing and loving one another but there are times when we argue or disagree. Those times and the issues that cause those arguments are to help you grow together. I cannot tell you the number of times I have told friends this statement and ladies hear me loud and clear: If there are problems now, there will be problems once you are married. Marriage does not make serious issues go away. If your guy tells little white lies and it drives you crazy. Guess what? He is going to do it after you are married. If your guy spends too much money on certain things. Guess what? He is going to continue that habit after he is married.
Serious issues between you and your boyfriend or fiance need to be addressed. Remember this man is going to be your partner for years to come plus the father of your children. You need to be honest with him in a gentle way. If there are problems that can not be changed with a heart-to-heart talk and encouragement seek other help. Go to counseling, seek advice from a couple you both admire or friends who remain neutral. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. My mom told me that some mornings you will wake up and have to make an effort to be a good wife while other days it comes naturally.
With all this being said I do not want to discourage you from marriage. I LOVE being a wife and best friend to my husband. We have the best time together and compliment each other so well. When we do have spats or issues we talk things through and resolve them to benefit our family. Forget being selfish once you are married because you become one unit. I am very grateful for my husband and the love we have for each other. Marriage is sacrifice, compromise, work but more importantly a blessing.
Make the most of your relationship. Address issues when they arise (in a helpful way), use those disagreements to build your relationship and continue to love one another just like you promised.
I hope this post helps and encourages you! Married life is so much fun!
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